Going through a divorce can be a traumatic experience, especially if there are children. However, if you and your spouse choose to stay together for the sake of the kids you may end up forcing them to grow up in a home where there is no love. Your children may thrive more if you were to divorce and they could spend time with each parent in a happier environment than where they are at right now. Gettingdivorced may not always be the best decision for children but in the long run your children will live a happier life because they will not have to deal with arguments happening around them. Your children may benefit from your divorce if they have seen you two arguing constantly and will know that a resolution is just around the corner because of your divorce.
If your kids are older they may understand what it means to want happiness for you and your spouse. If you are constantly fighting and unhappy then your children will want the best for the both of you. Getting a divorce can give you the happiness that you have been looking for so your children can also start to experience happiness in their home life. If you have tried everything that you can to save your marriage, therapy, time apart, and any other advice given to you and nothing works then it may be time to start considering a divorce. Divorcing does not automatically mean that your children are going to have issues and need to seek out counseling. There are a lot of different things that can happen through out a divorce so you do want to pay close attention to your children during the process.
You may be surprised that your kids feel some type of relief from your divorce. They have been living through the bad times just like you have and when it comes to an end they may feel more peace knowing that the hard times are finally over. Your kids may have been too embarrassed to bring home friends because you may argue in front of them. You may notice that your kids are starting to invite more friends home and have a happier disposition altogether. If you feel that divorcing will help your children grow up in a better environment then it may be time to take the next step and get a divorce.
The following are several other reasons where a divorce might be a good idea if you are thinking about your children’s well being:
A habitual past of gambling, drug or alcohol use, or other behavior that harms the spouse, children, and/or family relationships.
Mistreatment of Children
Sexual behavior towards children or violence calls for you to remove yourself and the children from this person right away and seek professional help.
If your spouse has ever been physically violent towards your children, remove yourself and your kids as soon as possible and seek professional help. Physical violence toward you or your children is definitely a good reason for initiating a divorce.
Understanding when it may be a good idea to get a divorce can be tricky especially when there are kids involved. You will need to pay close attention to your situation. It is a good idea to seek a divorce mediators advice and guidance to avoid the process from becoming ugly for the kids. Please contact us at Common Ground Divorce Mediation for a Free Consultation.