I want a divorce but my spouse doesn't
Your divorce experience is based on your emotional acceptance of the divorce, which is likely different from your spouse’s.
You have resolved that divorce is what you want. The news that you want this divorce is not likely a huge surprise to your spouse but they probably never thought it would actually happen. Now it is really happening and they don’t know how to cope with the rejection.
You are stuck. If you are too nice then it sends them a false signal that you want to make the marriage work. If you pull away and try to show no emotion then you are accused of being cold and insensitive. You are likely getting very weary of the roller coaster of kindness and hatred that your spouse shows you.
You are expected to make big decisions when you are emotionally not at your best. You need to be very careful not be so indifferent that you cause your spouse to further spiral to a point where they are consumed with punishing you by getting an attorney and starting a big war.
We understand what you are going through. We can help you manage your behaviors and help to establish boundaries and expectations with your spouse so you feel emotionally safe. The biggest mistakes in a divorce normally are made before the divorce even begins. Let us help you avoid costly mistakes in how your deal with your spouse.
If you would like to talk to a mediator about you situation please use our Divorce Cost Estimator below by clicking the button and a mediator will contact you to give you some option on how to deal with this emotional dynamic.
We specialize in these types of divorce situations. We help coach you on what to say to your spouse and when to say it. We identify potential hazards for the divorcing couple to be aware of and guide you away from these hazards.